Life Plan

Where do your dreams take you?

Many times in the past, I have fallen into the trap of setting out plans for myself, and then seeing them fall through. Life has a funny way of keeping us humble, and we should listen to it. In a year, I turn thirty. I believe I have achieved a lot, and gone further than many could imagine. It feels good, but ambition keeps us thirsty. Each year, the world becomes smaller. Technology brings us closer together, and makes life so much easier and more comfortable. When I first set off overseas in 2009, keeping in contact with home was much easier than just a few years prior, with Skype and Facebook gaining in popularity. With internet, mobile data, Wi-Fi (even on planes) there's no reason to lose contact. The world isn't as scary as people like to tell us, and people aren't as horrible either.

Rooftop football in Tokyo.

I have personal and professional goals. There is some semblance of a plan that I have put together. I shall elaborate.

Personal: To visit every Disney. Until a year ago, there were five. I had obtained 3/5. My 60% completion was knocked back to 50% with the addition of Shanghai. My fiancee shares the same ambition. It would be amazing if we could visit all six Disneys together. We'd like our Honeymoon to be Shanghai. I am of the opinion that while we are there, we should try to hop across to Tokyo or Hong Kong too, since it is such a long trip.

We have only done Paris together, and have both done Orlando and LA separately.

Got to go see what they are doing in China.

Professional: To coach on every continent. Disney can be achieved with savings and vacation. A professional goal is a lot harder. So far, I have done North America, Europe, and Asia. That gives me 3/7.

Africa: Pretty much every country has a volunteer programme. That should be simple. Save a bit of money, head over to a country for a few weeks, job done. There's very few paying positions in African countries. That may change over the next few decades, but we will see. Six weeks in Ghana can be knocked out one summer, no problem, and this ties in with some secondary ambitions, which I will expand upon later. I did see a position in Lesotho, academy head coach, for an entire year. Such an adventure would be so tempting.

South America: Again, plenty of volunteer programmes to join. Spend a few vacation weeks somewhere like Buenos Aires, helping football in the community, swapping culture, and learning about Argentinians and how they develop players. There's tons of other choices too, but that's where I would like to start.

Oceania: Australia and New Zealand would be top choices for actually settling and getting a job. Whether I go down that path depends on what the Future Mrs. Wilson wants. Again, there's always volunteer options in places like Fiji.

Disney Tokyo.

Antarctica: Highly unlikely. The only permanent settlements are scientists, who probably have no ambition of playing football in harsh conditions just to entertain one idiot. Penguins for goalposts. Still, I reckon I have another fifty years in me. Who knows what will happen. If all else fails, I'm sure I could go somewhere like the Falkland Islands. To me, it would still count.

What does the short term look like? Next summer, I will be marrying my beautiful Mexican Princess. She's perfect. Many would strongly disagree, if she is likely to put up with me, and entertain my stupid ideas and adventures. I never said it would be easy, just fun. When it comes to relationships, we're essentially looking for someone whose mental illnesses compliment ours. There must be some flaw in her I am not seeing, because there's no way she would be with me otherwise. I'm tired of travelling alone. I want a sidekick.

After that, it should take three to six months to get her into the UK, giving me until Christmas 2019 in the US. Perfect, as that's when my next visa runs to. That ties us both down to living in the UK for the following five years while we turn her British. Hopefully that's when we can do our Disney Shanghai Honeymoon (maybe in the first few months of 2019?). That summer I will look for a decent summer job, similar to one I had before teaching English to foreign students. Fairly decent wage, all things considered. The next step there will be to begin studying at Southampton University to become a teacher. After a year of that, become a P.E. teacher, working in England for a few years.

Street football in Accra.

What about coaching? I'm hoping my qualifications and experience will help me find a job with a decent team to work weekends and evenings. I should have quite a bit of free time between January and September, and it would be great to get on the FA Advanced Youth Award. Obviously have to be working with a decent youth team to be able to get onto that, and further my coaching knowledge. While away, I always keep an eye on what's going on back home. There have been plenty of developments, and new opportunities always arising.

That gives me about five years. There are three qualifications that I want to obtain in that time: USSF A License Youth, FA Advanced Youth Award, USC Master Coach Diploma. That will be rather ambitious, adding to what I already have, which by then will also include a PGCE. There's a few others, like psychology and futsal, but these are short term, and relatively inexpensive courses.

Once the Mexican is British, it will be time to move abroad. Five years in the same country seems incredibly daunting to me. The way round it, and to feed my wanderlust, is intermittent travelling. The below table may shed some light on what that can look like.

Ambitious, yes. Can we get to a Disney per year, until we have completed all six? Being a teacher usually brings with it decent holidays, including six weeks in the summer. It's in those six weeks that I can get off to coach in these other continents. As that requires a fair bit of money, I don't anticipate being able to do it for a couple of years. The first two summers back home will likely be spent working summer jobs, bringing in some income between teacher training. Definitely won't be able to save for such trips on a part time coaching salary.

Why become a teacher? There's many reasons. If I stay in the current job I'm in, coaching in the US, one eventually begins to lose freedom and choice. You become beholden to your employer for visas, which as we all know, is a very sketchy living in America. That then ties a coach down. I like it here, and I like what I do. I am very lucky to get to do it all day, yet the quality is poor, the lifestyle superficial, and ultimately, it proves for frustrating results. American soccer is showing no real sign of progress, and I don't want to be here for the twenty years it will take. Being in England, it is hard to find a decent paying coaching job, and being a P.E. teacher is the next best thing. Every country wants teachers from the UK, thus becoming my ticket to travelling for work. Teachers also get long holidays, again, time for travel and courses. And, you know what? I wouldn't mind moving to another part of the British Isle for a year or two. Why not Northern Ireland or Scotland?

As coaches, we are perpetual students of the game. For each experience and qualification I gain, more knowledge is shown to me. It's like walking through a door, only to find there are another five, and behind each of those, is another five. Knowledge is like an inverted pyramid. So much more depth than you realise, and so many directions to go in. It has been a long held ambition of mine to go and observe some of the football hotbeds around the world, and look at what they do (apparently I'm in one, here in St. Louis... HA!). I'm talking real football hotbeds; Barcelona, Amsterdam, Marseille, Naples, Brussels, Munich, Glasgow, Sao Paulo, Buenos Aires, and even Accra in Ghana, Qatar (due to their World Cup project), and Tokyo (thanks to Tom Byer's Football Starts at Home, the Japanese have a great system of technical player development). I'd even go to China, since there are a billion people, thousands of academies, and huge investment. In a previous article, I mentioned how soccer culture for a country should be viewed in terms of CEO; Coaching, Environment, Opportunity. It would be fascinating to see up close and personal.

The South America trip, primarily has to be Buenos Aires. Brazil sounds great too, but it's the upper hand with the language. I will try some Portuguese nearer the time, just not soon. Africa would be Ghana. Nigeria, Ivory Coast, Senegal are attractive too, but it's the language, and that Nigeria is just a little crazy at the moment. There's plenty of other African nations, but that's the region that produces the best players. South Africa and Kenya are appealing, but do not have the same pedigree.

Oceania is a strange one. That would essentially be wherever the wind takes me. How does football operate on a tiny remote island? The journeys of people like Paul Watson are inspiring. Dutch Coach Thomas Rongen went to American Samoa to be their national team coach. These experiences will be better than anything money can buy. Better than any car, any house, any lawn.

Next Goal Wins.

Going somewhere like that long term probably has to wait until I am much, much older. Grown up kids, no bills, some savings. Then it doesn't matter. You can go and do it simply because it is fun. Along the way, one has to look for worthwhile learning experiences, and to take advantage of them. I have thoroughly enjoyed listening to and reading all that comes out of Tovo Academy, and Todd Beane. It would be hugely beneficial to spend time in Barcelona learning from Johan Cruyff's son-in-law. Funny that the two American coaches to escape the US and make a name for themselves overseas, who are largely shunned by the US but admired by other nations, both have the initials TB.

Street football in Buenos Aires.

After the five years are up, there's likely to be some English-Mexican hybrid creatures borne upon this world. They will require some form of care and attention. That's why I want to try and get a lot done before they show up. Nevertheless, I'll be desperate to get out after five years. It could be anywhere, I really am open. I think the Mexican likes the idea of places like Canada, Australia, and New Zealand. Somewhat safe choices. Not exactly Egypt. I do think our first stop should be in the Middle East; Dubai, Abu Dhabi, Kuwait, Qatar, Bahrain (one of the better ones) in order to make some savings. Tax free, bills paid, with fuel as cheap as chips. Why not, right? Improve the bank balance, and then look to go elsewhere. We're of a generation that will never own our own property, and we both have master's degrees, that apparently take twenty years to become profitable. Not motivated by money, but at some point, we have to go get some, and the Middle East is a good place to go for that.

Aspire Academy in Qatar.

Following that, who knows? We'll have our own little footballers to develop. Raising kids is the most important, yet scariest thing a person can do. Get it wrong, and they turn into utter arseholes that ruin it for everyone else. I don't have plans for them. Kids should be allowed to be whoever they want to be. There's just a few things that need to be laid out first; it's irresponsible not to push your kids at an early age. Don't push them into something with dreams and ambitions of them becoming a superstar at it. Just simply get them involved in social and physical activities. They will learn from it. The sport doesn't matter too much, as long as they are active, playing with others, and competing, well before seven. The love of the ball is what needs to be created. Whether it's tennis, basketball, bowling, it doesn't matter. Sport teaches winning and losing, taking and giving orders, discipline, respect, drive, self improvement, and much more. This is really important for long term character development.

The formula that everyone should know is this; outcome is driven by process, which is driven by character.

Kids in Glasgow.

Character ---->> Process ---->> Outcome 

Many judge others only on the outcome, and so that is where their focus is. Did you win or lose? What was your grade? How did you do compared to others? Irrelevant, arbitrary, unnecessary, and unhelpful. Too many variables, too little control, not the real mark of a person's worth. Those who know what they are doing, focus on the process. Goals cannot be achieved, dreams cannot be lived, if we practice, prepare, train in the wrong way. You can dream of playing in a World Cup all you like, but if all you do is run laps and shoot into an open net, you'll be going nowhere. How good is the training? How good is the structure? Apply it to any walk of life. What are the steps that need to be taken to be successful in that specific field? There's your road map.

Fijian football, sponsored by Vodafone.

Character is what is most important, though. The process is all for nothing if the person isn't right. You could have the best coach, teacher, mentor, but if you are lazy, selfish, rack-a-disiprin, you will never get anywhere. People don't learn from osmosis, but from seeing, hearing, and doing. Sport from a young age teaches kids to focus, to deal with setbacks, to self-assess. These are valuable skills for any walk of life.

Tovo Academy in Barcelona.

Next, the kids must learn an extra language. English speaking father, Spanish speaking mother, is a good start. Should give them a base to build from to gain one or two more. What are the languages of the future? Portuguese? French? German? Mandarin? Arabic? Let's help them out a little bit with a good foundation.

Finally, they have to learn an instrument. Something generic like keyboard or guitar. Again, they can branch out any way they want from there. It just gives them a good place to start from. It becomes a fantastic way to express yourself in a world that is becoming ever more superficial. It opens up so many opportunities to play, travel, explore, meet, share, understand.

In conclusion, the first seven years of the lives of my spawn will be spent learning the fundamentals of language, music, and sport. Give them a sport to play, an instrument to play, and a second language to speak. Naturally, there will be no time (or money) for iPads or Xboxes. They can get those when they are older. It shouldn't be a distraction. They are fun, and have great uses, but can also be addictive and destructive. My idea is always prevention rather than punishment, and the best way to prevent them from being lazy couch potatoes is to give them hobbies, skills, passions, and a means to perform at those. Working with kids every day for the last ten years, I see them resorting to this, primarily, because it's easy. There's nothing else to do. There's nothing else they're good at. There's no other way for parents or adults to engage with them. I'll be the type of dad that plays with them in the garden, or at the park. Being so immature, I will probably watch their TV shows and movies.

Downtown Munich.

I will engage, I will empower, I will teach them values, and judge them by their actions, not by their appearance. This also means knowing when to back off. If they get a bad grade at school, don't fight the teacher, but place the responsibility on the kid. If they get dropped from the team, don't fight the coach, but insist the child asks the coach what they need to improve at to get more game time. Modern parents fight every battle for their kids, and then use iPads as dummies (pacifiers) to calm them down and shut them up. They don't know how to teach, how to model, or how to inspire.

The path for them thereafter, is theirs. Do what they want, be what they want. Just know that you as a parent have tried your best at giving them a good start in life. Whatever their pursuit may be.

How likely this all is, I have no idea. I think it is realistic, ambitious, adventurous. Write your goals down, state your intentions. Let's see how it goes.