Winning Isn’t Bad: It just shouldn’t be used as a way to
measure the development of young players.
There’s a consensus among dads of young boys that play
football in England, that winning in football is a taboo. “I don’t agree with
all this not winning stuff” is an actual quote one of my parents once said to
me. What they believe, wrongly, is that us coaches are not looking to win games
of football, as if we are deliberately losing. I like to win. In fact, I am
driven by it. We just have to be a bit careful on how we go about it, how we
determine what winning is, and what we sacrifice to achieve this win.
It's a surprisingly huge topic, and to me, it seems like
people just aren’t understanding each other. Firstly, there’s not two sides
Winning v Development. The two are not mutually exclusive, but they do not mean
the same thing. It’s more like a spectrum. Where you should place yourself
depends on so many variables.
Often when this debate is had, the two people arguing are
usually a lot closer in their opinions than they seem to be. Essentially, they
both want to achieve the same long term goal of improving players. The problem
is that either they do not disclose the environment in which they are working,
or that they are unable to see things from the other’s point of view. An U7
grassroots coach will have very different priorities to an U18 pro coach. These
arguments often get stuck on the semantics. The U7 coach will state that all
players deserve equal time on the field so that they are all given the opportunity
to practise their skills. The U18 coach will say that he will only pick his
best players, or give more game time to certain individuals, because that’s how
it works when they enter the pro game, or that he focuses on those individuals
because they have a chance of making it, while the rest of the team are just
there to make up the numbers. Can you see how one could agree with the
sentiments expressed by both coaches, yet the sentiments appear to be at odds
with each other? Both coaches will be right to do what they do, but should not
try to apply their thinking to the circumstances of the other. What works or
what is appropriate at one level may not be at the other level.
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When trying to determine your priorities (not which side
you’re on, as the two are not mutually exclusive) first ask these questions;
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Are the players being paid?
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What are we looking to achieve?
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What are their motivations for being here?
If you’re a top European side competing regularly for
trophies, your players will be paid excessively, they will be looking to win
trophies, and they will be there for the money, success, and stature of the
club. That’s why a lot of top, successful managers, such as Mourinho, have such
a terrible track record for bringing through youngsters. If an U18 does come
good, then they will be put in the squad, but they will not be given a chance
to develop. They can develop in the reserves or out on loan somewhere. They
have to hit the ground running. If they are not good enough, they won’t play.
This is exactly what happens when managers are brought in to save a team from
relegation. If there’s a young player in that team, they will be there on
merit, not because the manager took the time to allow them some mistakes and
bring them gently into the first team. At the top, if you’re not good enough,
you’re not picked.
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I am twenty-seven. There are many other twenty-seven year
olds out there. I can speak conversational Spanish. Many can’t speak a word of
Spanish. This is a much easier concept to understand as we don’t view a skill
like language as a natural ability, but as a skill that is honed and developed
over many years. I’ve been learning Spanish for three years now. Another
twenty-seven-year-old may have not learnt any at all. That puts me at a
three-year advantage. Therefore, you could quite rightly expect me to be able
to speak better Spanish than the twenty-seven-year-old that can’t speak
Spanish. We compete at a Spanish exam, and I should win.
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That’s precisely why we have to see it as a journey, not a
destination. Winners don’t just win once. Winners win repeatedly. To win one
game at U8 means nothing in the grand scheme of things. It feels great on the
day, but it will be one of many insignificant results along the way. If you intend
to make it to the top, you will play countless training and competitive games.
You will play games at school, at recess, in the park with your friends.
Winning just one of them does not make you a winner. The only time winning just
once is perhaps acceptable is when a player wins a World Cup or a Champions
League. This is the pinnacle of football. Very few are ever able to accomplish
this. Those are wins that will stay with them forever. Even then, once isn’t
enough. The hunger of these players means that they want to come back and win
it next time.
What does winning actually mean? What does it tell us about
the game or about the players? I’ll provide some facts about my most recent
game as a coach at the time of writing. My team won 1-0. We got three points,
so good, right? My team finished third in the league last season, and our
opponents finished second bottom (10th out of 11). My team had 41
points and were +40 GD. Our opponents had 11 and were -28. The two games our
teams played last season were both wins to my team, at 6-0 and 3-0. Given that
context, our 1-0 win doesn’t seem so impressive now.
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The winning goal came in the 85th minute. The
opposition were attacking down their left side. The fresh-legged substitute was
running down the wing at our defence. She cut inside onto her right, her
stronger foot, as she approached the box. Two players went diving in and bought
the fake. She was through. Two more players rushed back to get in her way, as
she faked again, and they bought it. She was through on goal, just the keeper
to beat, fifteen yards out, certain to score. At that moment, our left back,
who had initially been beaten after diving in, had come flying in to the block
the shot. She blocked it successfully. Had she stayed on the ground for a
second longer in despair, she would not have got up in time to block the shot.
Had she not have been a former player of our opponents, she may not have had
the determination to get up and attempt a block. Had the striker chosen to
shoot to the other side of the keeper, then the block never would have
happened.
Luckily for us, the block was a solid one. The ball pinged
out off her knee about thirty yards away to our centre midfielder. Like a
precision pass. She was not expecting the ball to come to her from that
situation, but was in a good enough position to start running at the defence
with speed (think Torres v Barcelona). She carried the ball all the way up to
the edge of the box, before sliding our striker through on goal, who coolly
finished one-on-one against the keeper.
Now you know about the goal, is that enough information to
determine whether we deserved to win the game? Were we just lucky? Did we
deserve to win it due to the perseverance of our recovering defender? Did we
deserve to win it due to the opposition striker making the wrong decision at
the key moment? Or did we deserve to win the game because we kept a clean sheet
despite all the absences and injuries against a very strong team? You still don’t
know our possession stats, interceptions, chances created, shots on target etc.
That’s the difference. Those are the parameters one might choose to measure
performance, whereas goals are the only parameters available to measure
winning.
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If I had instructed them to win the game, it may or may not
have happened, just like if I had instructed them to make certain passing
choices. If we had played the exact same 85 minutes, but the striker shot to
the other side of the keeper, or our defender had not recovered, or our own
striker had missed from close range, meaning we either drew or lost, should
that have affected how I viewed my team’s performance? Performance and results
are closely linked, but it’s not an absolute. Congratulations we won! Or
commiserations we lost! It doesn’t really teach the players much. One goal is
such a small event that has such large ramifications, and is often
uncontrollable.
An 11v11 ninety-minute game with no substitutes means that
each player has a 4.5% stake in the overall result. It could be that one player
suddenly pulls off a sublime bit of skill, or makes a horrendous mistake, and
that could be the moment that changes the game. In an average game of football,
there is usually just two goals scored. We’re looking at 1-0, 1-1, 0-0, 2-0,
2-1, and 2-2 as our most likely score lines. At any time in those ninety
minutes, a goal can be scored, by any player, in a whole variety of ways.
Think of it like this. I have been driving for ten years.
I’ve driven over 100,000 miles across ten different countries, on three
continents. At the moment I’m doing about three or four hundred miles a week.
Sometimes late at night when I’m tired. In all those hours of driving, I’ve
been involved in one minor collision, which was completely the fault of the
other driver (anyone who has seen the buses in Mexico City will understand).
Does ten years with a perfect record make me a good driver? It goes some way to
suggesting so. Does that mean that I won’t run three kids over tomorrow while
looking at my phone? Does it mean I might not spot black ice and go skidding
out of control? Of course not. It’s highly unlikely that I will be involved in
a crash, just like it’s highly unlikely that in any given moment of football
that a goal will be scored. There are 90 minutes, which means 5,400 seconds of
play (we’re being crude with numbers here, as the ball does spend considerable
amount of time off the field). If there are two goals in the game, that means
that there are 5,398 seconds of a match where the ball is not crossing the goal
line. If you were told that the game would last exactly 5,400 seconds and
precisely two goals were going to be scored, that gives you a 1/2699 chance of
accurately predicting the second that the ball would cross the line. That’s a
0.004% (roughly) chance of getting it right.
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How do you define success? In Spanish, it could be that the
recipient understands my point. Or maybe that’s not good enough, as I want it
to be perfect. In driving, it could be that I don’t die on my way home. Or
maybe that I get to my destination a little quicker than normal. What
determines how I define success? That’s a question that opens a large can of
worms, and goes off onto many tangents. The point is that to win or lose is
very difficult to predict, and that it is a terrible way of measuring
development. When looking at measuring performance, winning or losing is just
way too vague.
Is Usain Bolt happy with just winning the gold, or does he
want to smash his personal best? What if he smashes his personal best but comes
second? What about beating his opponents by a long distance but falling way
short of the world record? It’s like when a Premier League team only defeats a
lower league team by one or two goals in the cup; what should we expect? They
crossed the line first, they won! Is that not good enough? At what point are
you happy with the result or performance?
For a team to truly appreciate their wins, they have to know
what their wins are. What constitutes as success for a certain team? A team newly
promoted into the division will consider avoiding relegation as a success. A
team that spent millions on new players and has a history of competing for the
title will consider finishing second as a failure. Is a 0-0 draw away at first
place a good result or a bad result? The striker might not be pleased as they
were unable to score, but the defence would be ecstatic as they would have done
their job right. Another thing to worry about is perhaps false league position.
At the time of writing, Arsenal have only played one league match away at a top
half opponent, meaning their fixtures are going to become more difficult. It’s
why you must absolutely define what is something to be celebrated and what is
something to be embarrassed by.
For kids, when games can finish with stupid scores, and
aggressive coaches and parents that bark orders from the sidelines place large
amounts of pressure upon their younglings, it can be very confusing and
overwhelming. If a U8 team has three players missing at a birthday party, they
could ship ten goals in one game. If the goalkeeper stayed up all night at a
sleepover and can’t focus the next day, it could negatively impact their
performance. If the striker has had an argument with a family member, they may be
distracted, and thus failing to score. Kids football is so random. Can a player
be happy with their own performance when their team lost? I’d say yes, but to
which extent depends on the level. A U7 that scores five goals while their team
loses 8-5 can probably still be very happy with themselves, but at the same
time should understand that it is a team game, and we shouldn’t be okay with
losing. There are no absolutes. It’s all about perspective. I’ve seen teams get
smashed significantly, and yet the keeper on the losing side has been the best
player. “Without you son, it could have been double!” is often a legitimate
claim.
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Let it be known straight away; it is completely
irresponsible of a parent to not push their kids at a young age. Hear me out.
At the ages of about two or three (younger, actually) kids will start to really
develop mental skills and understanding of the world around them, as well as
their balance and motor skills. At that age, all they want to do is shove
crayons up their nose and defecate in the garden. No kid of two says “When I grow
up, I want to be [insert a realistic and pragmatic career option]”. If they
even know that they one day will grow up, they literally want to be anything
from a chocolate chip cookie to the colour yellow. They won’t know that they
are at an age where they need to start developing social, mental, and motor
skills. Push them. Push them into something. Swimming, gymnastics, bicycling,
something. You will notice the difference by the time they are seven. At that
age, when they actually want to join teams and play with their friends, some
will already be able to do that. Others will not, and will forever be
disadvantaged by not getting that early start. It’s very difficult to recover
from that.
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Sadly, not everyone can be so calm and rational. “I’m sorry,
I just get that way around sports.” Well don’t be that way. You’re the one in
control of your actions. If you seriously can’t help yourself from becoming red
faced and irate at a youth sports event, you should drop them off, and then
leave to go to therapy. Seriously. You are a deeply flawed human that is having
a massively negative impact upon your child. You are the reason that walkover
rules and the ban on publishing results have come into effect.
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Promote and relegate, even at young ages, to keep the teams
playing against teams of their level. I’d suggest even playing four or six
month seasons so that it happens sooner. A year is a long time for a child. If
they’re in the wrong league, they have to wait twelve months until they can
play games against more appropriate opponents. It also keeps things fresh and
adds to the competitiveness.
Also, do away with playoffs for the kids. I know they’re
fun, but they place too much emphasis on the short term rather than the long
term. In life, rewards come from consistency. Consistently do a good job,
consistently achieve good grades, consistently play well. A team may be seeded
in the playoffs, but as we know that football is a random game, anyone can beat
anyone in a one off. Where’s the reward in that? Play cup competitions in
addition to the league. Have summer tournaments. Knockout competitions can
teach valuable life lessons and are an important part of football, but do not
have playoffs in place of a league. Reward the team that has been the best for
the longest period of time, not just the team that enters a run of form during
the last few weeks, despite being average all season.
The idea that the long haul doesn’t matter is an opinion
often expressed (sometimes verbally, often through choices and actions) by
players and parents alike. “I only go at about 70% in training because I’m
saving my best for the game at the weekend.” Ever heard something like that
before? It is the anthem of the mediocre. The war cry of the perpetually
average. Remember how you need to give your best at every opportunity? Remember
how you need to munch your cornflakes and down your orange juice like a
champion? Winning takes time, effort, consistent practise. You don’t just win
once. For these people, it is far too late. You get good at what you do in
practise. Spend your time talking; you’ll be a good talker. Spend your time
walking; you’ll be a good walker. Spend your time pulling out of challenges;
you’ll be good at not being able to tackle anyone. You can’t improve your best
if you never work at your best. That’s why theatre groups spend months
practising. That’s why dress rehearsals are exactly like the real thing. They
don’t go over their lines and think that’s enough. “We’ll be alright on the
night. I can remember most of it.” They practise until they can’t get it wrong.
What makes football different to performing on stage is that
it is completely random, and anyone can affect it at any moment. A band plays
the same songs in the same order. They are not competing with anyone else.
There’s no band that can take the instruments away from them while they are
playing. It’ a well-rehearsed, carbon copy performance. Football has so much
randomness. Players need to be able to adapt to all sorts of new scenarios,
considering a plethora of live information, using a range of learnt skills and
abilities, with decisions being influenced by past successes and failures. The
speed of thought has to become instinctive. That does not happen at 70%. Would
Muhammad Ali box with a punching bag at 70% and think he was ready for a
heavyweight title fight? Would Bradley Wiggins bike around the track at 70% and
think he was ready for the Olympics?
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The complexities of maintaining possession. |
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This is what gives players that winning mentality. They’re intrinsically motivated. They’re task orientated. They have long term vision, but focus on the minute details of the short term. They do not fear set-backs and failures, yet embrace them, and convert that pain into fuel. It’s hard to create a winning mentality in a world that thrives off of the instant gratification of modern life. If you have good news, you don’t need to wait to see your family and friends, it just goes right on Facebook! “Look everybody! I have a kid/dog/meal/best friend/diploma/pay cheque/excellent selfie/destructive cleavage/nice message/rainbow/” or whatever else it may be that people use to fish for compliments. No longer do we have to wait until we see our extended family to let them know about our new girlfriend, engagement, or vacation. No longer do we have to wait until the next big family gathering to let them know about the wonderful new job or the graduation. We love those moments, but they’re always over too soon. So now, enjoy my holiday photos, spread out over the next few weeks, so you can spend extra special time and attention admiring the selfie I took, then comment with some fake response that conveys jealousy and affection. Just look at any girl’s Instagram account to see what I mean. Girl goes somewhere (doesn’t matter where, it could be a world famous landmark, or it could be the McDonald’s drive-thru), takes a selfie, usually with a forced smile or duck face, always from an angle that is slightly above the forehead, often with some serious cleave on display (there’s a strong inch-to-like correlation), and as a rule, the face has to be at least 30% of the picture. Sometimes as much as 60%.
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Long term joy and fulfilment comes from doing your best and feeling valued. To be able to have that opportunity every day, we need to be working in something that we truly believe in. That’s the key difference between a job and a career. Your career defines you. Your job is just something you do for cash. Don’t get stuck in a job. Short term suffering for long term gain. I (and my parents) have spent a lot of time, effort, and money on my education. I may be essentially friendless, lacking social skills, and be devoid of empathy, but I have built myself a platform from which I can build upon and spring forward. No one can ever take away my knowledge, experiences, and qualifications gained from all this.
It's a temptation of many in their early twenties to live
for the weekend. They’ll take any job because it gives them money. With a bit
of hard work, they start to move quickly in that business. Soon, they’re
working good hours, making a fair bit of money. They love going clubbing on
Fridays, stay in late Saturday morning, hit the bookies, watch the football, go
out to the pub with their mates, play football Sunday morning, then round to
their parents on Sunday afternoon for a roast dinner. They are very active
socially. They are accepted by the lads, meet plenty of birds, and due to their
shagging, drinking, and football, they do accumulate a large amount of banter
points by the end of each month. Kudos. But what are they building towards? The
job soon becomes dead end. The drinking and late nights soon become boring,
frustrating, and take all your cash. Eventually one of those birds latches on
and makes herself a missus, and she wants kids and a place to live. What about
Sunday morning football and the nights out? Hard to do in your late twenties
and early thirties when you have bills, kids, and a wife. The fun quickly dies
out. That lifestyle rarely lasts. That’s when people realise they are going
through the motions. They’ve not been anywhere and not become anything. That’s
when depression hits, and the existential crisis happens.
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We owe it to our kids to give them the tools to compete, to
fight, to improve, to self-reflect, and to stay grounded. We won’t always be
there for them. We can’t do everything for them. Push them, challenge them,
guide them, support them, extend them, criticise them, love them, and give them
a purpose. Or else they’ll turn out useless and miserable, eternally seeking
temporary and artificial highs until death.
Do your kids know how to fend for themselves? Do they know
how to be happy? What kind of person would they become if you were tragically
removed from their life this instant? We need to be honest with ourselves if we
wish to avoid the above trap. It’s okay if they are driven or obsessed. Help
them find a passion and a sense of purpose, even if it’s not yours, and help
them grow into the best that they can be.
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Developing players using the four corner model. |
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One boy improved a hell of a lot in that time. I remember
his mum crying when he scored his first goal and all the other boys jumped on
him. He was a year younger than the rest. But for eighteen months he had good
attendance, showed up early, stayed late, played against older kids, joined in
games of headers and volleys, knockout Wembley, 3v3, penalties etc. He started
to become a decent player, after being one of the weakest. Being a year younger
than the team, his football age was also a year younger (years of experience).
He was always swimming in the deep end. Figuratively lifting heavier weights
than he should have. It taught him to cope. It will teach him to excel. His
parents noticed his improvement. I made sure they knew it was nothing to do
with me. He would often arrive early and stay late. It helped that their house
was pretty much the other side of the hill to our club, and so was a two-minute
drive. Still, we had others in a similar situation that did not use that
opportunity.
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Champions do extra.
Each one of those wins mentioned above is a little win.
Consistent, small, but impactful, like a chain reaction. There are little wins
all around us. Every pass, tackle, shot, block, header, interception etc. can
all be little wins. Outside of the game, every good sleep, healthy meal, good
practice, good rest, extra training, jumpers for goalposts game with your
friends, these are all little wins. Think of it as money in the bank. As an
investment. Every time you play a game, each little win buys more raffle
tickets. The more raffle tickets, the more likely you are to win the game. We
all know it’s possible to play well and lose, or to be an outstanding player on
a bad team. Still, the game experience is money in the bank. As is every training
session, fitness session, game watched, and all the little details from there
that affect growth physically, socially, psychologically, and technically. Has
watching the analysis on Sky helped the player understand Conte’s formation at
Chelsea? Has the strange exercise in training helped the player to understand
how to work better with teammates? Has the humiliating loss at the weekend
helped the player understand how to self-reflect and not blame others? All
little wins. All money in the bank. Explain it to kids like XP points in video
games, helping their characters to level up.
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With longevity we can gather a larger range of information
which can help us examine, scrutinise, and compare situations. For example,
Peter Crouch’s England record. He’s scored a lot of goals, but many of them
were against inferior teams in qualifiers and friendlies. We have enough evidence
to suggest he’s prolific against mediocre opponents, but it’s still just a
suggestion. His club record may be better at certain clubs, which could be due
to playing with better players, or even just knowing his teammates better. Even
with all the stats and comparisons available, we still rely so much on guess
work. What do we value as harder to do? What do we define as more important?
What’s more challenging? It’s why we cannot scientifically prove Messi or Ronaldo
is superior. Ronaldo may have won in two different leagues, but Messi has more
league titles when they have played in the same league. Ronaldo may have won an
international competition, but Messi has taken Argentina to four finals
compared to Portugal’s one. They’ve both broken goal scoring records, became
highly capped, and are legends for club and country. So who you favour depends
on what you value. For me, Ronaldo is a... A bit like Bono. Bono does such
wonderful work for the poor and underprivileged people of the world, but he’s
so smug about everything that he turns us off him. Ronaldo poses as if to bask
in our appreciation, lifting his shorts up so we can admire his thighs. Amazing
player, just comes across as a knob.
Parents value winning with kids because for a lot of them,
it’s the only way they know how to measure what is good or bad. We won = good.
We lost = bad. That comes without context, and without a greater understanding
for the game.
So I ask you, would you rather your kid was part of a team
that won all the time, but was a bench player, and clearly one of the weakest
in the team, falling yet further behind those getting most of the playing time?
They’d still get all the trophies and appreciation (just like sub goalkeepers).
Or how about being a decent player in an average team, that plays a lot of
games, wins occasionally, loses more often, and is showing great signs of
improvement as an individual?
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Would you rather they won all the time, or learnt humility, kindness,
compassion, and respect?
Now, these are not mutually exclusive. It’s possible to have
both or neither. I just want to know where your preference lies. That’s how you
ascertain your values. That’s what shapes your child’s development.
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